True friendships and relationships should not be gender-specific and each party should be loved equally while mindful of individual needs. However, any physical attractions should be acknowledged to move past our physical plane to higher planes of Spirit.
The first thing to be understood is what ego is. A child is born. A child is born without any knowledge, any consciousness of his own self. And when a child is born the first thing he becomes aware of is not himself; the first thing he becomes aware of is the other. It is natural, because the eyes open outwards, the hands touch others, the ears listen to others, the tongue tastes food and the nose smells the outside. All these senses open outwards.